Certified financial planner Kimberly Foss is talking with Paul and Mae about financial infidelity and how to confront this issue.
Step 1: Ask yourself, what do you want from the situation? It's important you do this before confrontation, so you can give yourself time to cool down and get your thoughts in order.
Step 2: Why your partner is doing this. Figuring out the cause of this problem requires you to spend some time really paying attention to what your partner is doing.
Step 3: Talk to your spouse, but without blame or shame: The matter can likely be resolved with a calm conversation, one in which you both agree not to get angry (If emotions boil over, simply end the conversation and give the situation more thought until cooler heads prevail).